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Are Pregnancy and Fashion Mutually Exclusive?

As I began to outgrow my pre-pregnancy clothes, I started browsing the selection of maternity outfits at some local stores.  Needless to say, they left much to be desired.  Most were way too big, the rest…dreadful!  And talk about a lack of selection.  I saw multiples colors of the same shirt pattern.  I left the stores empty handed and downcast about being pregnant.  Sound silly and superficial?  I agree.

However, that is truly how I felt.  Not that I would consider myself a fashion guru by any means, but I enjoy picking out my clothes in the morning hoping they will reflect my mood that day (yes I am an emotional dresser).  Don’t get me wrong, I love babies and the comfortable parts of being pregnant (these do not include endless days of nausea, vomiting, and back pain which drive a woman to the brink of her sanity).  But on this day I was focusing on the things I could not have while my body was growing a precious child: peplum, coffee, and running.   Why is it that while I am going through a uniquely female experience I could not feel less feminine?  On my way home I thought I would pop in my favorite second hand store and see if by chance they offered any semi-appealing maternity ware.  It did not.  Since I was in the beginning of my second trimester, I thought I’d take a look for any clothes that were non-maternity but in a bigger size that fortuitously might still flatter me.  This is where I hit the jackpot.

I hadn’t realized just how much attire accommodates a larger belly these days.  This shattered my dismal belief in only wearing clothes marked “maternity.”  Of course some actual maternity clothes might be necessary, especially as we continue down the road toward giving birth and watch the scale go up.  Here are some items I found that are super cute and not hideous-yay!

Leggings

Whomever brought these back in style, let me just say, “I love you!”  So many colors and styles of leggings abound at such reasonable prices.  They can be worn with ballet flats or boots.  We don’t have to be condemned to wearing jeans that are an odd shape that have a revolting blue patch on the front!

Long Camis

These are great for hiding widening hips and shirts that are being raised by an ever-inflating abdomen.  Many have beautiful lace across the bottom which adds a nice detail.  Plus I saw lace popping up again as a fall/winter favorite this year by many fashionistas.

Oversized Sweaters

I found an abundance of oversized sweaters that looked like they were made for the pregnant belly.  You can find them in any neckline you like: cowl, crew, turtle, and V-neck.   The common length hits about mid-thigh depending on your height, which can be slimming for those of us whose butts and thighs are growing at the same rate as our bellies. 

Blazers and Cardigans

I love blazers.  Blazers and cardigans can be dressed up or down, business appropriate or casual chic.  They frame the baby bump nicely.

Others

Empire waisted shirts are an obvious choice.  Since they continue to be introduced to many stores’ clothing lines, the options for these are plentiful.  Long, loose shirts like tunics also work well.  I picked up some tall, lace-up boots to wear w/ my leggings as well.  Tall boots are a staple for me in the cold months but I was afraid my enlarged calves would leave them stretched out and ruined.  So I picked up a pair of Ugg Rommys.  They are extremely warm and comfortable, plus I do not have to worry about stretching them out and not being able to wear them in future seasons.  For some this may not be a desirable option later in pregnancy when the belly seriously hinders shoe tying, but so far for me they have been a big win.

For those of you who figured all this out long ago-great job!  Keep slow people like me in the loop on the latest ways to stay gorgeous while pregnant.  For the rest of you, go try on some non-maternity clothes that you like.  You may be pleasantly surprised how much you can wear.  Thanks for reading, and please leave your pregnancy fashion forward tips in the comments below.  Note: the above photo was taken by Venus Brown Photography, used with permission.

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Just What the Internet Needs-Another Blog

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P writing blue (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I never wanted to be a blogger.  Let me provide some background.  I have loved writing ever since I was a little girl.  I used to make up songs and poems and share them with my mom.  I always had book and movie ideas floating around inside my brain.  As I grew older, my love for writing continued.  However it seemed there were so many other things fighting for my time and attention: music, dance, foreign language, choosing and pursuing a career, spirituality, my social life, and starting a family.

While I was in my undergraduate program, I agonized over what my concentration should be.  Having been blessed (or cursed depending on how one might look at it) with so many interests, I had no idea how to narrow my focus.  One of my many not-so-fabulous characteristics is that I get bored easily. And since interest does not equal talent, I decided to take the logical route for my career.  I chose Psychology as my first major because it is so diverse and interesting that it would be difficult even for me to get bored with that career.  I also wanted to do something that would, with any luck, have a positive impact.  I elected for Spanish as my second major in order to continue studying a language that I loved and hopefully to become more marketable while applying for a job.

While this decision has gone well for me occupationally, there was still a nagging problem: I missed writing.  This was abated while I was in graduate school and had to write papers ad nauseam, but now that I have been out of school for some time I find myself growing restless.  I could write academically and plan to do so at some point, yet what I realized through prayer and self-exploration is that I miss writing creatively.  Then more questions came.  Should I write a novel?  This I have considered heavily, unfortunately in my current stage of life I do not have the time to devote to such an exhaustive project.  This realization initially left me feeling sad and frustrated.  Then those feelings gave way to immense appreciation for my current phase of life.  While I still do counseling and facilitate trainings part-time, most of my time is spent with my little ones.  I know this chapter of our lives is fleeting, and I am filled with gratitude and joy for it.  That is, when I am not ripping my hair out.  Sound contradictory?  That’s me!  I think that is a part of being human.

Which brought me to my next decision: what should I write about and how?  For some strange reason (note heavy sarcasm here), magazines are not knocking at my door begging for me to write for them since my only published works are a couple of poems I penned many moons ago.  This led me to consider blogging.  At first I completely rejected this idea as the World Wide Web is oversaturated with bloggers and vloggers.  Yet the more I thought about it, the more convinced I became that this was the perfect engine for me at this time.  I don’t have to deal with the stringent rules of academic writing, and I can write at my own pace about anything I choose.  “They say” that to write a good blog, the author needs to stick to writing about one thing that they know well.  I’m sorry but that is something I cannot do (easily bored, remember?).  I also read that the author should keep the blogs about the same length and style.  Another rule I am going to have to break.  If I only write about one thing, I am almost guaranteed to get bored and quit after a few months.  As for blog length, I feel that what is most important is that whatever I write be authentic, which can be anywhere from 100 words to 1000 depending on the subject and the muse.  This means I am running the risk of creating a crummy blog.

I had to make a decision at that point if I should pursue this.  What if not a single other person ever looks at my writing?  What if people read it but no one likes it?  What won out was this drive to create that I am unable to shake.  Maybe it won’t be earth-shattering.  Maybe it will seem conflicting-at times amusing or thought-provoking, fun or passionate.  You don’t have to agree with me.  I just hope you will take the time to consider it.  Thanks for reading.  Let me know what you think in the comments below, along with any subjects you would be interested in reading about.